Tag Archives: relationship

Sex therapy: Stop trying to be ‘normal’

Three experts talk about how sexual expectations are changing and the issues they are asked to address Dr Meg Barker, sex and relationship therapist and author of Rewriting the Rules People are very scared of not being normal. By far the most common question I’ve heard as a therapist is “Am I normal?” And people […]

Who’s Really Interested in Alternate Relationships?

Consensually (or openly) non-monogamous relationships are long-term committed relationships where the partners have an explicit agreement to have outside sexual partners and/or romantic relationships. Some, like swingers, are more focused on multiple sexual partners; others, like polyamorists, are more focused on multiple loving relationships, but they all share a commitment to honesty about their nonexclusivity—as opposed to the typical approach of […]

The Fantasy That Puts All Relationships at Risk

There may now be hard science behind the notion that true love can last a lifetime. A neurological study from Stony Brook University revealed that couples who experience “romantic love” long-term keep their brains firing in similar ways to couples who have just fallen in love. The research team, led by Bianca P. Acevedo and Arthur Aron, found […]

It Doesn’t Hurt to Look, Does It?

The real effect of pornography on relationships. You might think viewing pornography can’t hurt a real-life relationship. Some even claim that erotic material impacts their relationships in positive ways. So a team of researchers at Florida State University developed an experiment to determine how consuming pornography affects adults’ commitment to romantic relationships. The research team recruited college students who were […]

Love and Power

Power infuses all relationships, but today there’s a new paradigm: Only equally shared power creates happy individuals and satisfying marriages. Increasingly, it is the passport to intimacy.   As water is to fish, power is to people: It is the medium we swim in. And it is typically just as invisible to us. Power is […]

The Most Loving Thing You Can Say to Your Partner

The worst thing you can do for your partner and your relationship is believe that you know how to make intimate unions work. In reality, there’s no way that any of us could know. Biology, which takes many, many generations to change, has not prepared us for love’s special challenges in our rapidly changing culture. […]

What No One Teaches Us About Love

Fear of intimacy isn’t a character flaw rendering us unfit for intimacy; it is part of being human. If we’re breathing, we have fear of intimacy. The real question is: How do we keep love at arm’s length, and what can we do to change that? Addressing this two-part question is perhaps the most direct path […]

It’s NOT normal to stop having sex when you’re in a long term relationship… And here’s how to spice things up in the bedroom

  A recent CNN health report showed 40 million Americans are stuck in a sex rut. Most therapists would agree the proportion of population similarly affected in the UK is equally as high. The reasons why we’re all so bored in bed are many: everything from unrealistic expectations to stressed lifestyles. Ask the average worn […]

I Interviewed Four Women Who Rejected Me to Find Out What’s Wrong with Me

The internet ruined dating for me. Ever since 16-year-old me, already desensitized by years of childhood exposure to weird porn and AOL chatrooms, tricked my mom into giving me a ride to Orange County to get deflowered by a girl I met on MySpace, I’ve consistently used technology as a crutch for dating. Thanks to […]

7 Signs That Dating Won’t Necessarily Lead to a Relationship. Good insights for men.

When it comes to dating, we women think we are pretty good at telling which “signs” are pointing to a future relationship. After dating someone for a while, we begin to think we have an understanding of what actions are those of a potential boyfriend, and which actions are those of a potential heartbreaker. For […]

10 signs that your wife looks for when you’re cheating

So what do women look for to see if you’re cheating? This is an article from a womens blog telling women what to look out for. He’s Suddenly Shaving If your husband’s grooming habits suddenly take a change for the better, then you might have to be concerned that you’re not the one he is […]