Tag Archives: BDSM

Want To Enhance Your Marriage? An Erotica Author Suggests BDSM

Want to take your relationship with your spouse to the next level? According to erotica author Red Phoenix, the trick is embracing BDSM. In a segment on HuffPost Live Tuesday, the author told host Caitlyn Becker that experimenting with BDSM has done wonders for her marriage. “We have always been committed — we’re monogamous and […]

Blindfolds: A Classic Sex Accessory

When it comes to the popularity of sex toys, blindfolds take a back seat to vibrators. But if you’re so inclined, blindfolds can deliver wonderful sexual enhancement — especially when worn by the woman. Why? One reason involves differences in male and female erotic arousal. Sexologists agree that of the five senses, sight is what […]

What is BDSM in a nutshell?

The double acronym BDSM stands for Bondage Discipline, Dominance Submissionm & Sado-Masochism What on earth are those? Bondage is being tied up with lots of rope generally, but can involve restraints of all kinds, such as leather or metal cuffs, silk scarves etc. Discipline is exactly as is sounds: obey or there will be punishments. This can be ‘corner time’ […]

The UK’s Secretive S&M scene

Nobody knows how many people are involved in the “scene”: a loose grouping of people across the country who enjoy an unorthodox – and under current laws potentially illegal – sexual lifestyle. However, one US study suggests 11% of women and 14% of men have engaged in BDSM – an abbreviation for bondage, discipline, domination, […]

Harlotry: Erotic Massage Isn’t All Happy Endings

I’ve been a whore for five years. Five and a half, if we’re being really honest, since I started doing sex work slightly before I legally became an adult. In that time I’ve had almost every job one can have in the sex industry. I’ve modeled for amateur porn photos, tasteful, softly lit erotica, and […]

I’m a bit kinky with some unusual fetishes

Brisbane Times advice column: Q. On the surface I’m a great bloke. I’ve been dating this wonderful woman (we’re both mid 40s) and we’re at the stage where I’m confident we will have sex – the tension is palpable. However, I have a hidden dark side, being a bit kinky with some unusual fetishes. Do […]

7 Kinky Things She Loves But Won’t Tell You

Him: Nothing? Her: No. Nothing. Him: How come? I touched it like you told me to. Her: Well, what if you, um, bit it a little? Him: You mean like this…? Her: Ouch! Cut it out! Let’s just forget about it. Hit a sexual slump? Don’t worry, it happens. It doesn’t mean there’s anything wrong with you, per se; it just […]

Why are so few men writing erotica?

RJBlain to Nobilis Reed, male erotica author: To be honest, you’re the only male erotica author I know. Are men who write erotica really so rare, or am I just surrounded in a sea of talented women? Nobilis Reed:  They may not be as rare as you think they are. First of all, there are […]

Porn on the Kindle: A Catch-22

People like to read erotic literature on an e-readers because they’re discreet. But retailers can make the smut very difficult to find. “Many of us realized immediately that, like the Internet, the Kindle was made for porn.” So wrote the pseudonymous kinukitty at my website, The Hooded Utilitarian, a while back — and the use of […]

Edgeplay isn’t your grandmothers BDSM scene

  In front me, a naked woman is chained between two men and is getting slapped with a dead squid while an audience of about a dozen watches. This isn’t performance art, although this is technically an “arts space” and I did pay $10 to be here. This is an edgeplay seminar. Edgeplay is a […]

Financial domination is an expensive fetish

Being a financial dominatrix is a lot like being an accountant. Except for the fact that people masturbate over your penny-watching and you’re more likely to work from in front of a webcam than behind a desk in a pantsuit. The fetish of financial domination basically entails men (or “pay pigs,” as they’re known within […]